Christian Marriage Advice, Communication in Marriage
How do you improve your marriage? Maybe you even need to save your marriage. Whatever the case I want you to understand that your marriage can not only be saved but it can be one of the best relationships this world has ever known. I want to give you some of the best marriage advice I have ever gotten myself. If you care about the quality of your relationship I am sure you will want to hear this.
The best marriage advice I have is simply based on communication. You may not know this but communication in marriage is a lot more than just talking. It involves a lot of being quiet and listening. In fact being quiet and listening to your spouse puts you in a very good spot. It means you now have all the information you need from your spouse. Remember that if you open your mouth a good chance of making things worse can happen.
So many people speak before they listen. Often this is from anger. Anger may be a good thing but remember how you use it is the difference between life and death. Every marriage has a little bit of anger in it. Those who can control their tongue when angry have the best chance at a happy marriage.
Maybe the most important part of communication is the ability to be quiet and listen. If you feel the strong urge to speak bite that tongue! It is almost never good to open your mouth when you are not able to control it! This one bit of advice will help your marriage in many ways. It can give you much better ways to deal with fights.
The second part of communication is speaking. Remember to listen first though. When you do open your mouth remember a few things before you speak. First remember that your spouse is human. That means they are able to make mistakes. Some mistakes seem worse than others and even unforgivable. Please stop and think though. Could you ever under any situation make the same mistake? You're fooling yourself if you think they are the only one who could do such a thing or say such.
My marriage advice to you is to let your speech be tempered with forgiveness, gentle, humble, and even submissive. Don't confuse sarcastic as submissive. Even if you are right it is good to acknowledge your ability to be wrong. It may be all your spouse needs is to hear you say "I know I could be wrong." since this makes them feel at ease and like they don't have to be right either
One last part of communication is how you speak with your actions. I can say I love you all day long to my wife but if I don't spend time with her she is going to feel neglected. Can I tell you that your marriage is more important that your job, house, and even kids?! Marriage is the foundation of our society. Keep your foundation strong and you can build on everything else. Let the roof fall down as long as you don't let the floor crumble.
Sacrifice is the name of the game. Maybe your spouse wants more time with you and your job is in the way. It may be time to get a smaller house and different job. Let your actions show love. These little bits of marriage advice will help you on your way.
